How frequently to have sex?

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One of the most common issues that family and unmarried couples ask sexologists and sexual health specialists – “How often should we have sex?” Almost all men and women want to know, whether they have sex often enough, and whether the sexual intercourse frequency should be increased?

As a rule, sexologists’ answer is “Forget about the concept of a normal frequency of sex.” There are many myths about sex. Yet there is no magic number, when it comes to how often partners must have sex. The main thing is to understand their needs for sex, and take into account their partner’s desires.

Each couple has their own ideas about how much sex should be present in their lives.

Statistical data show that successful and independent men and women have sex about:

  • 2 times a week
  • 8 times a month
  • 100 times a year.

Taking into account the fact that not every man and woman can openly answer questions about sex, these statistics may be erroneous.

The level of sexual activity of a family or unmarried couples can be affected by a variety of factors, including:

  • Age
  • Libido
  • Lifestyle
  • Duration of relationship
  • Sexual health

At the beginning of a relationship, people usually enjoy frequent sex – 3-4 times a week. Then, the activity levels reduce and become more realistic. If a man or woman has a new partner, the frequency of sex usually increases.

During life, a man can change up to 10 sexual partners.

Women change sex partners much less often than men do.

Researchers have calculated that the frequency of sexual intercourses usually reduces in 4 to 5 years of marriage. Partners who live together for many years can have sex no more often than once or twice a week and be absolutely satisfied with such sexual relations.

When lovers stop having sex every day, they do not become less happy together. Nevertheless, the frequency of sex and happiness can be interrelated.

It does not matter whether the sex frequency is the same as the statistics shows. What matters is the extent, to which the partners are satisfied with their sex lives.

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If one partner believes that he has sex too often or too rarely, he can and should discuss this issue with his partner. Only trusting relationships will let you know, what your sexual partner really wants and how to make him truly happy.

The reasons for the low interest in sex may be different:

  • Some men and women refuse to have sex because they feel emotional or physical discomfort.
  • Others use various pretexts to refuse sex due to lack of interest in the same sex positions all the time.
  • Third category reduces the frequency of sex with one woman and at the same time begins paying more attention to another woman.

Sex is an important part of a happy relationship, and may become one of the secrets to a happy sex life. The success of partners’ sex life, as well as their physical health and emotional well-being depend on how often they have sex.